I Lost One
Yesterday, I bumped into someone I used to be friendly with in college in my student council days. We were always religously VERY different (he more modern, me on the yeshivish side of things) and as time moved on, we grew apart. I would bump into him every now and then, chat it up and see how life was but that would be it. He was always struggling to get into medical school and well last night he told me that he got in. I was so proud.
I was sad, because since college, his religous level continued to decline. And well, he barely keeps shabbos these days. My heart aches when I see him and I can't help but wonder, if I could have helped him. What hurts more is that he's such a good person with a good heart and he's just been hurt so badly (different relationships he's had with girls which I had set him up back in the college days) that unfortunately he attributes all the negative things in his life as G-d's fault, rather than as a test or a gift from Hashem that we may not understand.
I haven't stopped thinking about him all day. I daven that Hashem should save him. I hope he fulfills his dream in life of becomming the doctor he's always wanted to be, and maybe, just maybe he will return to Hashem.
posted by Inmymind @ 4:09 PM
8 Comments:
hi. just responded to your comment on blogblond. sorry for the confusion.
Did you ask him to stay in touch? Perhaps you could introduce him to some guys who might be a good influence. If he's exposed to the right crowd, he might come back.
I know the feeling. Here is a suggestion; first of all never judge him (remember 'al todin et chaverro at s'yakum bm'komoh'.
You can however feel free to ask him about his feelings regarding Judaism and what it means to him. Sometimes we shy away from having open discussions about these things with friends.
Perhaps he wants to talk about it, and might need a gentle push to make a change. As long as it is done with kindness, you have nothing to fear.
MH -- I would love to just be his friend and introduce him to some good guys but it's not appropriate in my circles. I tell people that we know in common to loo out for him, but unfortunately that's where it ends...
Almost -- I don't judge him in the least. I'm just sorry...and I wish he loved yiddishkeit as much as I do. I've had discussions with him before but he just doesn't care. I hope to just be an example, that someone frum can still be nice and caring
Davening and showing him you like him regardless of religion is all you could do. I understand the feeling.
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Ditto what the above commentor said. continue to be a good friend no matter what, and listen and aknowledge him.
Also, it sounds like he needs more positivity in his life. Here's something that might help. here
shalom
Thanx guys! I'll be doing the best I can!
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